When your ex ignores a custody order, you may feel frustrated and unsure what to do next. Pennsylvania law gives you several ways to respond, and choosing the right one early helps you protect your child and avoid more conflict. Here’s what you should do if your ex isn’t following the order.
Document every missed visit or violation
Write down each time your ex breaks the order. Record the date, time and what happened, and save any messages or missed-exchange proof. Judges rely on detailed records to see if a pattern exists. Keeping organized notes strengthens your case and helps you show the court exactly what’s been happening.
Try to resolve the issue calmly if possible
Before you involve the court, reach out respectfully. Confusion, scheduling mistakes or emergencies can cause one-time issues, which a calm conversation often clears up faster than formal action. Taking this step first also shows the court that you acted in good faith and kept your child’s well-being ahead of personal frustration.
Ask the court to enforce the order if it continues
If your ex keeps breaking the agreement, file a Petition for Contempt or Enforcement with the Pennsylvania family court that issued your order. The judge may order make-up parenting time, fines, counseling or custody changes for repeat violations. Acting quickly protects your parenting time and helps your child maintain stability.
What the next step should look like for you
If nothing changes, don’t retaliate or alter the schedule on your own. Instead, speak with a Pennsylvania family law attorney who can guide you through enforcement and help you take the right next step to protect your child’s peace of mind. Taking calm, steady action today moves your family closer to a more stable routine again.
