You may have made your decision to divorce after months (or years) of consideration. Then again, you might be one of many in Pennsylvania who decided to take the divorce route following an acute crisis event in your marriage, such as revealed infidelity or a domestic violence situation. Regardless of the particular details that led to your decision, your focus now is likely how to keep stress levels as low as possible as you navigate the process and move on to a new lifestyle.
When you and your spouse disagreed, you more than likely heard what they said, but may not have really listened. You aren't alone. Most people hear what the other party says in order to formulate a response, not necessarily to understand the other person's point of view, especially during an argument.