When going through divorce, it is natural to turn toward outside sources in order to gain advice on what to do. However, people have plenty of differing opinions on everything from how to handle the divorce itself to child custody matters.
Many people may champion shared custody, for example. But do the supposed benefits actually stack up?
The benefits of shared custody
Talking Parents discuss the benefits of joint or shared custody. Studies done across decades and in various countries across the world show that shared custody can and does often have a positive impact on children of divorce.
For example, these children typically develop healthier coping mechanisms at a younger age, especially compared to their counterparts who experience sole custody. This often leads to healthier relationships throughout adolescence and adulthood, too.
However, shared custody can only work out if the parents are in the right frame of mind and situation to make it work.
Does it work for everyone?
For example, some parents simply cannot interact in a way that joint custody needs. Parents who opt for shared custody need to have the ability to treat one another with respect, courtesy and consideration. They should be able to come to compromises if necessary. Though they do not need to be friends, some parents cannot even stay in the same room after divorce.
Some parents also do not have the ability or desire to share custody, either. For example, a parent may be absent due to serving in the armed forces. It is also common for a divorced parent to opt out of their child’s life in some situations.
For these individuals, other custody options exist instead which may serve a greater benefit.